Dog parents aren’t perfect.
Does dog parent guilt get to you sometimes? I think most of us dog parents feel like we could have done better in certain situations. However, as much as we want to do the best thing all the time, that doesn’t happen as often as we want it to. We are only human, after all.
People make mistakes all the time. So do dogs, for that matter. But making mistakes doesn’t make us bad. It just means that we’re not perfect.
Dog parent guilt can’t change the past.
You can probably think back to a situation with your dog in which you wish you’d done something different. And maybe another approach would have been better. But no matter what you wish, that time has passed, and there is no going back to change what happened. Even though you would do anything to have a do-over, what is done is done.
We learn better ways.
What we can do is use the situation to find better approaches. Life is a series of lessons. If we’re wise, we look at each situation and try to find that lesson to do better the next time it comes up. We can’t take in the lesson if we’re busy feeling that dog parent guilt.
I have to admit that there have been times that I’ve done the wrong thing with my dogs. For example, I have become impatient with one of the dogs. I might have yelled at them about something they did. I felt terrible about it, but my dogs forgave me.
When something like that happens, I can choose to do it differently next time if I understand where the problem was. If I step back and rethink the situation, I can see how a little advanced planning could have made things go better in the given situation. Next time, I will do better.
The anecdote to dog parent guilt is love.
When you admit to yourself that you aren’t perfect and make mistakes, it gives you the freedom to relax. And when you relax, the chances of you and your dog enjoying each other’s company increases. Dogs are so forgiving. Your dog will still love you even if you’ve made a terrible mistake.
And dogs don’t look at things like we do. I don’t believe dogs sit and mentally bash themselves over their mistakes. They lick their wounds if they have any, kick some dirt on it, and move on with their day and their lives. We could learn much from this approach, don’t you think? For more lessons from dogs, read this post.
Have you ever felt bad about something with your dog? I know I have. Tell me your thoughts in the comments below.